If you’ve been anywhere near a sex shop or online adult toy store in the last decade, there's a good chance you've seen a Fleshlight! If you have a penis, you might be curious about what a Fleshlight could do for you. Well, wonder no more! We're here to do a deep dive into how to use a Fleshlight! Read on to get the skinny on these penis pleasure wonders, including Fleshlight tips, instructions, FAQs, and more!
What Is a Fleshlight?
A Fleshlight is a masturbation device for men and people with penises. They feature a hard plastic outer shell and a soft inner tunnel, which typically replicates a vagina, mouth, or anus (there are non-realistic versions, too), giving the user the experience of penetrative sex while masturbating.
Fleshlights deliver a super lifelike experience, so the inner canal material usually mimics the feel of human skin (it's soft!); some Fleshlights are even modeled after porn stars. Plus, most Fleshlights include an adjustable suction level or inner grip feature.
Getting Ready to Use Your Fleshlight
Whether you are a Fleshlight pro or wondering, "how does a Fleshlight work?" we've got you covered! You may even have your Fleshlight ready to go. In that case, you'll want some water-based lubricant (we'll talk about why in a minute), privacy, and whatever else helps you feel good when you masturbate.
Basically, you want to be comfortable and feel like you have the time and space to fully explore your Fleshlight's potential because we're about to give you some hot tips on how to have the best Fleshlight experience possible!
Best Tips on How to Use a Fleshlight
Fleshlights are pretty cool on their own, and if you have one, you are already in for a good time. But that doesn't mean there aren't ways to make using your Fleshlight stroker even better! This list of Fleshlight tips will help you get the absolute most out of your session. So, hang on to your hats, folks, because we are about to unleash all of our best tips on how to use a Fleshlight!
Warming it Up
Fleshlights already feel lifelike, but there are some things you can do to make yours feel even more like the real thing. One of the coolest (no pun intended) options is to warm up the inner sleeve. There are a couple of ways you can do this, and most involve stuff you might have around your house:
- Warm water: Quick, easy, and discreet AF. Just take your sleeve out of the case and run hot warm (from the faucet, not boiling water as that could damage the sleeve) through it.
- Warming Lubricant: This is another simple one. There are several warming lubricant formulas available and all you have to do is apply one before using your Fleshlight.
- Electric Blanket: I know this one sounds weird, but it works! Take the sleeve from the Fleshlight case and wrap it up in the electric blanket. Turn the blanket on and leave it to warm up for 5 minutes. Check the temperature. If it's not warm enough, give it a few more minutes.
- Hair Dryer: This one probably feels silly, but it's very effective. Take the sleeve out of the Fleshlight case first. Then, with the hair dryer on a medium heat and power setting, aim it into the opening of the sleeve.
- Warming Stand: A product exists for this specific purpose! It's a stand that safely heats your Fleshlight sleeve. You'll need to lightly lubricate the inside of the sleeve, place it on the stand, turn it on, and then wait for the light to turn green. Voila! Warm Fleshlight!
Lubrication
Before you get down to it with your Fleshlight, apply lots of water-based lubricant to your penis AND the inside of the sleeve. Lube reduces friction (chafing is not pleasurable!), heightens the realistic sensations, and makes the entire experience more enjoyable. You definitely want to choose a water-based lube because other types could damage the sleeve.
Get a Partner
Fleshlights are not just for solo play! Using one with a partner can be super intimate and incredibly hot. Whether you engage in mutual masturbation or incorporate the stroker while engaging with your partner (like a super-easy threesome!), adding toys to partner play can take things to the next level.
Try Different Positions
It can be easy to fall into a masturbatory rut where we use the same positions all the time. Don't be afraid to mix it up. Play with changing how you use your Fleshlight. Sitting, lying down, standing up; you can even try going hands-free, which we'll get back to in a little bit.
Use it for Edging
Edging is a great way to practice sexual stamina, and a Fleshlight is a terrific tool for helping with this. Here's how it works: You use your Fleshlight as you usually would, but as you feel a climax approaching, stop stroking and wait for the pleasurable sensation to subside. Repeat the process several times. Doing this can help you last longer during sex, and it can make your orgasms more intense!
Go Hands-Free
You have many options if you want to use your Fleshlight without using your hands! You can use something like the Fleshlight shower mount or keep it low-tech and secure your Fleshlight in place by wedging it between sofa cushions or a mattress and box spring.
Use Other Sex Toys
You don't have to use your Fleshlight all by itself! If there are other forms of stimulation you are interested in, try incorporating them by adding in other sex toys. If you are playing solo nipple clamps or anal plugs are great bets. If you are with a partner you have even more options including impact toys, restraints, and more!
FAQs
Can I use a Fleshlight in the shower?
You absolutely can use a Fleshlight in the shower! Plus, the Fleshlight Shower Mount was specially designed for hands-free use in the shower.
A note: be sure your Fleshlight is completely dry after using it in the shower. Putting it away damp can cause mold or mildew. Not sexy.
Can I use a condom with a Fleshlight?
Yes, and it's a good idea for several reasons!
- Clean-up is super-easy.
- Wearing a condom can make your Fleshlight feel different, so it's a great way to change up the sensation.
- If you have trouble feeling enough sensation during sex with a condom, wearing one during your Fleshlight session can be good practice.
What is the best way to dry a Fleshlight?
The easiest way to dry out your Fleshlight sleeve is to use a soft, absorbent cloth to pat it dry before giving it some time in a well-ventilated area—don't put the sleeve back into the Fleshlight case until it's fully dry.
What type of lubricants can be used with a Fleshlight?
Water-based lubricant is the safest choice for use with a Fleshlight. Using other lube formulas risks damaging the material, but water-based lubes are universally compatible with toys. Also, they make for super-easy clean-up.
